I need to look more girly...should she have even brought this up to me?

so I don't know what to say anymore Ill just say yes I like females. i recently started to dress in guys clothing mainly american eagle. i cut my hair like a boy not to look butch but for other reasons. i guess its a problem then again they have been having problems with me since ive been there iver petty things. im a nice employee a bit quiet who doesnt start anything. i work in the dietary deprtmnt in a hospital. i come in the office and one of my co workers who is much older grabs my attention. her tone was kinda serious and she was like you know i like you with your hair short and i told you that right. im like yea....? she then goes on saying you need to do something wear some big earrings and some lip gloss. im putting a playful spin on it by asking so you think i look too boyish and she says yes. she went on about i could pull the look off and basically ,y apperance is too boyish and i need to look more feminine. i was like wow so that was a nice way of saying my appearance doesnt please you and obviously they all have been talking about it. i been through so much with worrying over what they say that my mind frame is f u c k y o u. i had days where i was crying and didnt wanna go in and this was when i looked girly so what does it matter? they find something to talk about no matter how good i look. im not unattractive at all but these people talk like i am and funny some of them are some ugly a s s f u c k e r s. i dont think she should have even said that to me for the simple fact that i want to look this was if i wanted a girly look i would do that. but its cool i guess let them talk i just remeber that i have a life outside of work and they dont mean ****...does anyone thinks she should have not said anything to me? by the way i had my hair just as short a year ago and she said nothing then.